What you're experiencing isn't new or isolated to FFXIV. Is there something wrong with it? I don't believe so.

There are plenty of things to do in this game at your own pace, but the core of this game is an MMO. The foundation of a game like this, is your ability to become a team and work with others.

I'm like you. I love to raid. I've gone through 5 statics since Beta, and server transferred twice.

If you love to raid, then you're probably more about the accomplishment than the gear. So doing an easier 4 man Alex/Coil would be less rewarding.

So my advice is, you have to decide what you want. The system in place isn't flawed. If you want to raid and that's why you play, keep looking and server transfer if you have to. Statics are breaking up everyday, so an opening can become available any day. If you don't want to leave your FC and friends, create an alt to visit when not raiding.

That reward sometimes takes sacrifice.