What's with the lack of players that believe in themselves?

[Bigcat9715]

I was running Great library trying to lvl my paladin to 60, and ran into a healer that had a lack of faith in her ability to keep me alive and a blm who was new to the dungeon who thinks because he's new he automatically believes he can't kill as fast as the other guy( just fire 2, fire2, flare). Why are people like this? I was in a dungeon where a tank did a large pull, and I sadly failed in my task to keep him alive. The tank said "fine let's do small pulls ", I said "no give me a second to adjust". We tried the large pull again and no one died. Why can't people believe in themselves a little more?

[axemtitanium]

[Medicine]

I have very low self-esteem, it's not in my nature to believe in myself lol.

[Skivvy]

I personally find a little self-deprecation at the start can set the tone of "hey, we're not all "world-first" level players, so mistakes may happen!". I feel that people in DF can be far too uppity for their own good, and maybe these other people are just trying to soften the expectations.

[Hayward]

I'll just keep this simple: Other people aren't you and you aren't other people. It also doesn't help that there are professional raiders in MMOs and forum boards who live for tearing down new players for the slightest errors or lack of "efficient" DPS.

[FunkYeahDragons]

KILL ALL THE THINGS.

[MeiUshu]

I was running Great library trying to lvl my paladin to 60, and ran into a healer that had a lack of faith in her ability to keep me alive and a blm who was new to the dungeon who thinks because he's new he automatically believes he can't kill as fast as the other guy( just fire 2, fire2, flare). Why are people like this? I was in a dungeon where a tank did a large pull, and I sadly failed in my task to keep him alive. The tank said "fine let's do small pulls ", I said "no give me a second to adjust". We tried the large pull again and no one died. Why can't people believe in themselves a little more?

and why is that even bothering you ?

[Kurogaea]

I was running Great library trying to lvl my paladin to 60, and ran into a healer that had a lack of faith in her ability to keep me alive and a blm who was new to the dungeon who thinks because he's new he automatically believes he can't kill as fast as the other guy( just fire 2, fire2, flare). Why are people like this? I was in a dungeon where a tank did a large pull, and I sadly failed in my task to keep him alive. The tank said "fine let's do small pulls ", I said "no give me a second to adjust". We tried the large pull again and no one died. Why can't people believe in themselves a little more?

This game isn't built things like player spirit in mind. We have a trinity system which leaves us heavily reliant on others. If it were Phantasy Star, one person could redeem an entire team if skilled enough. This game, one player is down and survivabilty is crippled by at least 25%. Some people already know this and it can be stressful at times. So to prevent or reduce it people ask if its ok to do things like pull a giant mob, run in with only 1 dps present. If a healer can't keep up very well, the tank lets them decide how much they want to be pulled (if they're kind enough). Its all about common courtesy. The Blm on the other hand, it takes experience in their own skill to know whether or not they can do things like that. At one point my blm was too weak to aoe dps and wind up getting the tank killed since the damage was taken for too long and the healer ran out of mana. Thats a scenario that used to happen often during 2.5+ for new and less experienced players. Just do them a favor and respect their wishes. Don't force people to push themselves, unless its yourself who's being tested, let them know what your limits are.

[Spawnie]

think its more or less they are afriad to push themselves out of thier comfort zone... ff14 community can be very hateful and vile after somethin as simple as 1 little wipe

[Selli]

I've been playing for two years and I still don't have faith in my skills, LOL.