Why does everyone blame the tank?

[Viridiana]

and "Healer should HAVE let the DPS die"?? No, why should the healer let anyone die, their role is to heal!

Totally did this the other day during Titan for my SCH relic. Sorry, but I'm not gonna heal the BRD who's pointing Titan at the raid.

[Bornruffian1]

/\ My kind of Scholar. XD
Seriously though, everyone does like to blame the tank. The best advice I can give though is to communicate, I've found that people are usually pretty cool once they're made aware that you do indeed know what you're doing and aren't some random troll/little kid/illiterate monkey, or whatever those kinds of people are envisioning when they jump down your digital throat so readily, and if that doesn't work, and the person is really berating you just start a vote to kick, I'm sure the rest of the party will probably thank you for it in the end.

[Viridiana]

The best advice I can give though is to communicate, I've found that people are usually pretty cool once they're made aware that you do indeed know what you're doing and aren't some random troll/little kid/illiterate monkey, or whatever those kinds of people are envisioning when they jump down your digital throat so readily. . .

Yeah, I had a story Brayflox run back when I was leveling SMN where the tank was rather bad. I kept ripping hate with Bane, and the healer was with his cures. When the healer was like, "Don't blame me if you die because I can't keep up with heals," I responded with, "Nah, I'd blame the tank, because neither of us is doing enough that we should be getting aggro." After that, we just worked together to keep things flowing more or less smoothly and eventually cleared the dungeon. One heck of an Aiatar fight, though. @_@

[AngelicSence]

Don't worry, you are fine. Just walk away

[Pooky_Pasha]

Totally did this the other day during Titan for my SCH relic. Sorry, but I'm not gonna heal the BRD who's pointing Titan at the raid.

Ha, I agree! When I SCH Titan for my FC, I let them know they get one raise, and that if dps really want to tank Titan (really, any fight), they won't get healed. I can heal through stupid, but will not heal through excessive stupid.