I will say this again.. people who are jerks are jerks with or without the help of a parser. The parser only gives them something additional to be a jerk about. They're still gonna be that person that lashes out at a party after wipe, or insults other dps with no semblance of being constructive. Parsers do not magically turn anyone into a jerk.

There are two sides to this coin. Not everyone only plays MMOs for interactions, as crazy as that sounds, first and foremost. I play for both interaction -and- progression. If enough of my friends stop playing, I will quit an MMO. Same as I will eventually get bored if we aren't making progress end game and quit. It goes both ways. So in static runs, or even party finder runs where people are expected to hold their weight, I don't really think it's fair for the 7 other players in your party if a dps cut off for a dps race is a certain point and you aren't maintaining it because you haven't looked into your cooldowns. I understand that side of the argument just fine. I also understand that people will use a parser to arbitrarily raise dps requirements on fights (the same thing I've seen people do with ilvl) and that some people (who were already jerks) will use it to call out dps in DF runs and the like.

Both sides have valid reasons for wanting or not wanting a parser. I'm in the group that doesn't want to take a useful tool away from everyone just because some might misuse it. I also make sure that I'm running with like-minded individuals when I do things (which I think all people should do). If you need to learn a fight, join a learning group and all that good stuff. We aren't elitist, we're more than happy to help those who have a problem with dps, tanking, or healing get better.. but we certainly want people willing to put the same amount of effort into making sure they're doing well.. if after weeks you're not showing any signs of improvement, and we continually have to repeat things to you.. then you aren't putting in the effort and we will probably find a replacement for you in the progression set. We'll still run lesser content with you, that you can be carried through.

To the whole "you can see it without a parser bit".. I bet you can.. but with Twintania, Titan, Garuda.. I'm more paying attention to the things I'm tanking, the boss's rotation, and the things I'm dodging than I am a specific person to see if maybe the right buffs aren't flashing up on them. It's a bit ridiculous to expect people to pay attention to all a boss's mechanics, plus track 7 other people in the party (in which you'd also have to know the correct rotations for every class by heart to make sure they're doing it right). But somehow expecting a person to do that is fine, but expecting someone to hold their dps for fights that do have dps checks isn't?

I don't hold any delusions SE will officially allow parsers either... this is the company that won't let us send whispers in dungeons cause they're afraid players will get harassed.