Whats your point? That we should all tolerate our laggy "friends" because they're not really bad, it's not their fault?

When a bad internet connection or under-powered computer is hamstringing you and preventing you from playing correctly you are by proxy a bad player. You are the only person that can change that situation, you've realized what your problem is and rather than rectifying it, have accepted it. Now you've reached the point that you're actively trying to justify your decision to not rectify the problem, which is the true mark of a BAD PLAYER.