You mean like this game? I'm not sure why you're hell bent on playing a game that was meant from inception to be a casual friendly game and alternative to FFXI. /shrug Who knows? The graphics are too pretty? Just can't stay away from a game that obviously disappoints you people at every turn?
The mind it boggles.
On topic, I don't see a problem with this feature IF it is implemented better then in the past, it's a fairly new concept to the MMO world, like new things it's going to need adjustments. The random grouping 'matching' thing needs to go and hopefully the devs gives the player control on who to invite. Being able to play with people across servers is an intriguing thing, it just needs to be tweaked so it's not automated.