"No one wants a trauma dump from a stranger," does not equal "This community is not friendly at all."

I also have next to no issue just making small talk with other players. It's just like real life, if you come at strangers with anything more than generic pleasantries, you've just made it incredibly uncomfortable. Other players aren't free therapists. We're all just goofing off in a fantasy game together and are perfectly within their right and social norms to back off if you come on too strongly.