I wonder how many more pages this will go on for before healers/dps admit that in truth they do not care one bit about those two or three extra minutes of time and this is all just a petty tantrum about party control?

Tanks have always been traditionally considered the leaders of the party in pretty much every adventure/dungeon crawling setting (and of course, MMORPG) and in 2024 that just sits poorly within some circles.
You will often find an extreme overlap between people who take issue with tanks and those who hate mentors and similar community roles.

But of course, tackling the real problem would make them sound petty, so instead we pretend that the real issue is about pull effectiveness lmao