Yeah, I see. Here is the real situation. I'm not a beginner and I'm doing my job. Our melee is running about dozens of yalms, dueling or chasing someone. Two enemy's melee chase me and get to me while the whole group scatter in different directions, and this was not a case of tactical retreat. Our melee is back, I'm dead and marked with a target to ignore.
This is not a story about the suicide, it's just about people using this mark for harassment. If this happens, I just leave. Because I can do my job and I can do it well enough, but getting the mark target to ignore trying to survive is already too much. You can say "Know your class", but I know my class enough to survive against at least one, but two, three is not an option.
Or when the target to ignore mark on the one who left to renew the mana. Or the target to ignore mark on who is being hunted by opponents. Or target to ignore on me when I help a hunted party member who has a LB, without which we will not win. Or target to ignore mark on a focused party member who is being crushed by two players right next to us and who for some reason no one pays attention to.
So I won't put up with that, and I think people who put up with that are spineless. If you have a boor in the party, they should be sent to hell, let them win on their own, if they can.
I noticed that there are often arguments here with the shifting of all responsibility to the player, implying that all matches are perfect and the team works smoothly, but in reality it is usually just the opposite.
About the conversations after the match. They are different. When the same melee player writes to me after the match “You are bad”, because I physically could not push the crystal (mana at zero, HP at zero) while he was having fun somewhere far away, this is also complete garbage. Because first the harassment in the match, then the harassment in private messages.
All this can be done differently. I still don't agree with the need to mark someone who kills himself over and over again. If you really want to put marks, then chain mark is much better. I agree with soft talk, but it works better without a mark, much better in my opinion. Sorry for the verbosity.