Hmm, let's see. Things I do habitually that are punishable under the current TOS? Expecting basic competence and decorum from other players.

No matter how politely worded or what have you, indicating to someone else it would be beneficial for the group for them to do X instead of Y is a punishable offense, even should them doing X instead of Y be absolutely integral to succeeding. This goes far beyond common sensibilities pretty much everywhere. And yes, I
have had consequences for precisely this thing. No, the wording I used when addressing the individual was not rude or demanding - it was phrased as a very non-confrontational request for the individual to do what was needed of them, coupled with an equally non-confrontational explanation of why it would be better for them to do X instead of Y.
As for being reported, anyone that feels the need to tell you they're going to report you probably isn't actually going to do it. If they do, the fact they felt the need to tell you has a good chance of biting them in the posterior. Of note, the GMs have a lot on their plates at any given time. Most investigations are cursory at best, going only in-depth enough for them to ascertain whether or not the thing being reported took place. The circumstances surrounding that thing occurring are largely irrelevant. For this reason, I believe you might have a little too much faith in the process.