FFXIV Girls only discord server

[TwizzlyTwist]

I almost got banned for playing a male character

[Kolsykol]

Definitively not a safe space. Needlessly judgmental, invasive, and zero security, simply aren't qualities that create safe spaces.

They don't even seem to communicate within the leadership, let alone beyond that.

To be fair, this basically describes almost every internet community.

[Anatha]

To be fair, this basically describes almost every internet community.

Sorry you feel that way, however there's still a major difference here. Almost every internet community isn't on this forum trying to pass themselves off as a safe space when they are anything but.

It's ultimately a necessary service to out exploitative communities when they try to gaslight people into joining them.

It's rather clear this discord is more about the furtherance of a false sense of grandiosity for its leadership than it is about actively caring about the people in it.

It's full of red flags, and it really bothers me when red flag bearers try to pass themselves off as helpful individuals just "looking out" for the mental health of others.

[Cadmar]

There’s and area is Kolusia toward the NW that most accurately describes this entire thread.

[Burmecia]

Joined Just to see what's up, I am XX chromosome human after all.
But. Now I am kinda curious, impishly so.
I have low enough speaking voice that my 2nd Alphascape static thought I was younger guy for few months I ran with them.
Lovely static overall. The misunderstanding becoming topic of conversation was honestly very hilarious.

[Bobby66]

Those posts are a huge misrepresentation of what we stand for. They are taken entirely out of context as well. Instead of anyone even trying to educate us, what happened was they got pissed off, left and made a whole new story up to shame us for no reason. Again these lies are fabricated. Similar to how the media spews opinions and changes context. Believe what you want we won't budge! The fact is we are being crucified by cancel culture because they refuse to talk things out and educate.. they just want to END things that don't make them happy. All this trouble is unnecessary and a giant waste of everyone's time.. All I ask is for those who don't want to be in this group to go find something else already because all this information still circling is invalid.

Why didn't you just let stay instead of being switched to a supporter role? They do identify as female, so they should be welcomed even if they also identify as a male.

[girlkisser]

today i learned that it's being crucified by cancel culture to get yelled at for being weird and transphobic, wild.
i would simply not double down when trans and queer people brought up concerns instead of acting like this makes me oppressed*.

[SieyaM]

Those posts are a huge misrepresentation of what we stand for. They are taken entirely out of context as well. Instead of anyone even trying to educate us, what happened was they got pissed off, left and made a whole new story up to shame us for no reason. Again these lies are fabricated. Similar to how the media spews opinions and changes context. Believe what you want we won't budge! The fact is we are being crucified by cancel culture because they refuse to talk things out and educate.. they just want to END things that don't make them happy. All this trouble is unnecessary and a giant waste of everyone's time.. All I ask is for those who don't want to be in this group to go find something else already because all this information still circling is invalid.

Real question, which one of the discord server admins put you up to this. This very much sounds like someone who was told to get in there and defend our server. If I had to guess you are probable rather new to the server, maybe just a few weeks in, were elevated to a minor position to do your audits or whatever and given the honeymoon treatment, which is pretty soon about to end since you didn't turn opinion around like they wanted. Either way gender discussion aside, this discord server sounds like it has a host of other problems within. Anyone that is trying to create a welcoming and safe community doesn't disallow suggestions or feedback. They also don't have this kind of turnover with their mods. This server is ringing all kinds of alarm bells and it isn't because they're girls only.

[Batbrat]

today i learned that it's being crucified by cancel culture to get yelled at for being weird and transphobic, wild.
i would simply not double down when trans and queer people brought up concerns instead of acting like this makes me oppressed*.

I would say it's more like the alphabet crew eating each other alive tbh. I say this as a pink and orange alphabet member myself.
A lot of the girls in there are actually trans from what I saw, but what they don't let in are transmen if I'm understanding right? Feel free to correct that anyone.
Which on one hand it makes sense, because if you identify as male then why do you want to be a female server-wouldnt that be triggering? Wouldnt they have to curve the tone of their conversations about womanhood to be sure not to accidentally upset them somehow which would defeat the entire purpose of having a female server if you can't openly talk about everything female? but on the other...maybe they want the safety feeling of being around what they used to know? but don't they now hate that? and anyway, once you go from female to all gender accepting then arent you no longer a female server? Which by the way-arent ALL servers all gender accepting? So why does the one female one have to drop to the ground and decimate it's biggest rule and literal entire purpose when all the other genders have the entire rest of the world's servers to choose from?

This is a problem that I absolutely do not envy lmao lksdjfkljj. As said...after years of dealing with creepers, stalkers, dudes throwing a fit sending suicidal/homicidal things at me..yeah, I do now at this point avoid servers that arent primarily women. but it's always been a small circle of female friends who look out for each other and spam favorite series/music genres. That's really all it is. For the butthurt dudes who wanna be like 'omg waaah man haters' girl no one even talks about you in female servers-we are never trying to ruin each others day like that. Anyway..yeah it's a big confusing mess with this kinda stuff that honestly most times feels like..if you even try to ask, you're gonna get called a 'phobe' 20 ways to sunday. Tricky mess. My biggest advice is of course filter out the minors and the terminally online. but that's a little hard in an mmo community. Take a stance and accept that you'll be the big bad baddies for it and if you can't do that, then just give up being a female server. but at this point even if you do, you'll still have a bad rep anyway.

[Nethereal]

It truly is amazing how many of you have placed so much hatred toward this group. It's interesting that SOOO many of you would bash FFXIV Girls Only because it's the latest and greatest "Red button" for cancel culture to chime in on.

a Women's safe space was created in effort to support nourish and protect those who do not handle confrontation very well. Those who don't have a voice in a crowded room of entitled humans. This space and it's leaders are there combatting all the trolls and the people who are so against filtered clubs. Did any of you stop to realize it's optional to join?

There are rumors on here that are appalling and untrue and yes they had a bumpy road with their rules. So let me clear the air.
1. No minors were harassed by any member of the staff of this discord. Those who believe that information is true clearly are "fake news"
2. No we do not hate trans or non binary. We welcome both as long as there is a feminine center
3. We are an Ally of LGBTQ+ but we clearly define our discord as Girls only not because we purposefully want to "exclude" and "hurt" sometimes we really don't know and the best conversations to have are emotionally intelligent ones.
4. Our security has improved. We aren't telling you what we changed on a public form, all we know is that it is working and we are able to stop harmful people from joining now, ie; Abusers, Trolls, Harassment, Hate parades and racists.
5. There is no "verification" system that you all are referring too, we are not checking "voices". We are confirming that the user can handle more sensitive topics and that they are in fact capable of handling certain words and phrases. This process is called "orientation" please correct your notes.

Perhaps instead of constantly bashing a group who is simply trying to recruit and enjoy what they have now, you could move on. Find something that fits you instead of harboring hate, and cancelling people immediately.

Feel free to bash me shame me all you want to be honest, reading this post and all the hatred, reminds me how poor we are as kind loving humans to one another.

Opinions are not facts. Stop living in a world where everything is supposed to 100% perfect because its not.
Also stop with these horrible rumors. All you've done is shown how petty, heartless and damaging you all can be. #cancelcancelculture.

For those of you interested in a safe place for Girls and those of feminine core please join this discord for the fun, not the politics. You are definitely missing out by not experiencing it for yourself.

-Namaste.

I mean that's nice and all but you didn't dispute the twitch claims, or the ones relating to contributing artists.
Nor why you think it's okay to have mandatory 40 messages a day not including inhouse ones.