"Everyone's so open and friendly" is a lie

[Rinhi]

lmao get a load of this persecution complex. It's easy to navigate social interactions without breaking the rules or insulting people; if you're incapable of that, that's on you. Maybe spend less time fantasizing about what a poor, ostracized, woebegone soul you are and actually look at your own behavior for like three seconds. No one is obliged to entertain your "negative opinions" at any point, and if you can't uphold the social contract of decorum a community wants - then you're not a good fit for that community. Some places revel in negativity, some places don't. Even 4chan has standards, as low a bar as they are.

so you didn't even read my post? let me quote myself,

that I've never insulted, harassed or abused a single other player (other than myself) in the entire time I've been playing will fall on deaf ears

not to mention that you're completely shifting goalposts about not being allowed to insult people for whatever reason, just like so many people before you because that's your go-to deflection
thanks for proving your own point wrong, by the way

I won't quote your second post, but... that's exactly what I do, too! can you believe that?! positive reinforcements and suggestions are of course better than negative ones and 'forcing' someone to do something, but that was never my argument in any way, either

Why would you expect for people to be on your side? If they're not, then so what?

what? I'm not expecting anyone to be on my side, where did I say that? I'm just giving you examples of what happens or happened, which all but serves to...

That said, I took a look at the rules for the main sub, and it doesn't allow you to vent about duty finder/pug experiences. So at least that's one excuse, which is unfortunate, as it just collects the people who would vent under another sub.

... paint this community as a beacon of niceness, by pushing away those voices that would disagree or didn't have a good experience, like them

[linayar]

what? I'm not expecting anyone to be on my side, where did I say that? I'm just giving you examples of what happens or happened, which all but serves to...

That said, I took a look at the rules for the main sub, and it doesn't allow you to vent about duty finder/pug experiences. So at least that's one excuse, which is unfortunate, as it just collects the people who would vent under another sub.

... paint this community as a beacon of niceness, by pushing away those voices that would disagree or didn't have a good experience, like them

Don't get me wrong, though. I think the rule is unfortunate because people still want to vent, not because I don't understand why they have it. That said, you can still discuss it in general. Instead of venting about a specific incident, you can describe an issue you have in general terms.

So I still don't see it about pushing away "dissenting" voices, but about not creating drama around specific incidents. Even r/TalesFromDF has to warn people not to encourage negative actions against people.

EDIT:

A nice recent example that I just saw:

https://www.reddit.com/r/ffxiv/comments/r2iizd/send_help/

It seems to have gotten a positive response at the time of this post.