Asmongold's mom passed away.

[Kaoru_Nagisa]

Nekaru is very unwell. I'd honestly cut your losses and stop responding to them entirely, as upsetting as what they're saying might be. They have so little self-awareness that they don't even realize that the points they're trying to make would only sound reasonable to someone else with the same sociopathic tendencies. I think they're legitimately incapable of emotionally grasping why people care about things like this, and have trouble understanding that not everyone is like they are.

It's normal to feel grief when something tragic happens to someone or something you care about, and it's nice to be able to share that grief with others. Thank you for making this thread, the comfort it's provided outweighs the few gross people in it.

Considering they yelled for 3~4 pages in the Tales from DF thread about mentors, then made another post saying how annoyed they were that someone was trying to give their friend advice, and have in the past said some really insensitive or outright gross stuff, I've written them off as either a child or an adult who never grew up.

Do I think some people come in here (and go to in-game vigils and the like) to be 'seen' rather than because they're sincere in their empathy or grief for another person? Of course I do. Many people are like that, and the XIV community has shown itself to be very performative when it comes to stuff like this before. Do I feel the need to come into a thread yelling about it, though, or yell about it in all the vigil posts on reddit or etc? No.

Because the fact of the matter is, for every one person who is simply there to be 'seen' or try to win ~internet clout~ for how 'empathetic' they are, there are 3 people who are there because they feel genuine sympathy and grief for another's loss. For the loss of anyone - be it someone famous like Miura, or a regular player who never really strayed out of their established friend circle.

I saw Zack's twitter update about what happened with his mother, before the tweet he made recently announcing her passing. Despite how collected he tried to appear in that video, I saw the pain and the fear, the love he had for his mom - and I cried for what happened, and I cried reading his tweet about her death. I know what it's like to lose family you care so much for, and every time something happens to my own mother (be it sickness, breaking a bone, doctor appointments, health scares, etc.) I fear how little time I might have left with her. I know how much pain I would be in to lose her; so it breaks my heart to know what sort of pain he must be going through right now. Arguably, he was even closer to his mother than I am my own.

You don't even have to be a frequent watcher or fan of his to understand the sort of pain that kind of loss can leave a person in. Everyone loses someone, every day - but rather than use that as a reason to just forget basic human empathy, think of it as all the more reason to offer condolences and kind words to get people through such a dark time in their life.

I wish him all the best in the coming days, and hope he is able to take all the time he needs to heal from this. I know from experience that it can take years - and even when the pain stops being so raw, it never truly goes away.