I rarely feel like a "glare mage". With my main focus in the game being casual content, and solo stuff such as deep dungeons, my group content is my daily roulettes, and that's PUGs.
As tank, I sometimes die to healers being stuck in doing damage rotations, or not paying attention and dying, whereas as healer, I get tanks wearing toilet paper for armour and not having any mitigation buttons on their hotbar.
Most of the problems people talk about on these forums are irrelevant for my day to day gameplay, because I never have the luxury to stand there and nuke-spam. I rarely even get to put a dot on every mob, because I'm busy keeping just the tank alive, meanwhile the ninja has 3 stacks of some debuff and the dragoon is on fire and about to jump off a cliff.