"Elitism" vs "Casualism"

[KalinOrthos]

It's not a false equivalency, it's perfectly apt. The only element that needs to be present for it to fit this context is embarrassment, which it provides in a way that's simple for all of you to grasp. Through that example it's made clear WHY causing public embarrassment for a person isn't the best way to approach offering criticism. Do it in private.

for dear life

And, in this context "public" refers to the group you're in. If you're on a team there are certain things you do in front of the team and certain things you do in private with individual members of the team. When offering criticism you do it in private. Doing it in front of the team is demoralizing and embarrassing.

If I'm on a group project with other people and someone is actively doing things that make the project run worse, you'd be foolish not to address it. What matters is the urgency in which you do. In an instance, whispers are disabled, and if you are to seek the person out afterwards, I don't know about you, but that strikes me as pretty f***ing creepy, especially when people do so anyways trying to slide into my DMs. It's faster and better to just state it in party chat. That's just a fact. Maybe you should stop taking any sort of critique of your play as a personal attack.