Healers who rescue pull tanks into mobs.

[Enla]

Team members also work for the good of the whole team, not just themselves. You can't smokescreen with "you're toxic because you only care about yourselves" while shilling the tank's whims and laziness to the detriment of the whole team.

To be fair we had a not so small discussion awhile back about how rescuing the tank is faster and easier than talking to them directly in chat, so it absolutely goes both ways. Frankly I think most of this could be solved just by talking to one another. Most tanks I've met are willing to pull more if the healer doesn't berate them and honestly expresses that they think they and the group can handle it. Even when I had the worst of my tankxiety I would be willing to pull a lot more than I was comfortable with if the healer actually talked to me and treated me like a teammate, rather than a meat shield.

This whole issue could literally be solved if either side stopped assuming they're above basic communication.