Many people who fit in the elitist role take offense to a player on their main job who don't spend the most basic of efforts to gear up for a fight. I'm not saying everyone should have double meld yada yada gear but for the most basic of setups if you are a THM and you go to an Ifrit fight with me as a DD and you are sporting your dated ornate silver sceptor I just might drop party. Anyone can spend 2hours a week and farm up some karakul fleece with any 50 job and bank enough to buy a full set of basic nuking gear. Buy some entry level tier III materia and do a few shouts around for a couple basic melds. Go full dated setup of pre 1.19 gear vs the 3hours to gear up your main job and its gonna make a monster difference in DPS/usefulness.

I have no idea what your gear setup was but I do take offense when I see someone who couldn't bother to spend 10min. in the wards to at least pick up the basics. Of course I make every effort to help out people and if it were me I'd have whipped you up a set of gear on the spot. I make it my personal challenge to help people out if I can. I was once new to MMO's and had no idea how to get sub jobs and some nice players that I still remember helped me on Bahamut back in 2004 I want to be remembered like that. He sounds to me like a strait dick and not the type of ppl I hope to meet in FFXIV ever.