DPS and healer players often have these lofty expectations of tanks the moment they pop into the instance. They expect to be grouped with the god-gifted tank who knows every mob down to a T and has perfect placement. God forbid you accidentally miss an enemy in that summoner's shadow flare, because they're going to tear into you for it. I could go on with the list of encounters I've experienced but I won't.

What I will say is that one of the main issues this whole unspoken rule originates from is the lack of communication between both parties. Often times tanks expect the healer to cope with the task of managing a mass pull, wall-to-wall, while other times the healer will run ahead of me as a tank and probably die because I find their approach to be ignorant as hell. For goodness sake people, you're not playing with bots when you queue into the dungeon, you're playing with real people on the other side of the screen. At least communicate any desires for the pulls plus inform your group, preferably at the start of the dungeon, if you're inexperienced and would rather smaller pulls. You're not always going to be grouped with these veteran players who post informative topics about class optimisation, theorycrafting and whatnot. You will meet some rather inexperienced players where a little bit of patience is required.

Yes, some will say "But how can I have any sympathy for people who make it to the end of the current endgame who refuse to learn their class and remember every single mechanic type?" Listen, we all want to complete that daily expert roulette at the end of the day, and typically without any stress included. How do you avoid that from becoming a problem? Well I don't start with immediately initiating a vote kick because Paladin McSwordOath doesn't hold aggro at all times. How trigger happy must you be to live with that kind of mentality? Would you act the same way if you were playing side by side with these people? Kindness goes a long way. However, I do understand that votekicking is sometimes a necessity when the situation is definitely dire. I think it should be a last resort though. Just my two coppers.