I need help understanding different personality types!

[Amariel34]

What's the difference between small talk and over-sharing? I guess to me all talk is talk.

Small talk would be like the weather, the other person talking about their kids, etc. Just mundane everyday stuff.

Over-sharing would be things like talking about our personal problems, personal health issues, etc. Usually when the other person didn't even ask to know and usually with a lot of details. xD

[JackHatchet]

Small talk would be like the weather, the other person talking about their kids, etc. Just mundane everyday stuff.

Over-sharing would be things like talking about our personal problems, personal health issues, etc. Usually when the other person didn't even ask to know and usually with a lot of details. xD

I have to admit. I'm still confused! What's the difference between one person's kids, or one person's health issues? Aren't those both personal issues? I mean, kids are a big part of someone's life. They're not just a fluff topic like the weather. Is there a possible disconnect between discerning where the line is between fluff and personal?

[Amariel34]

I have to admit. I'm still confused! What's the difference between one person's kids, or one person's health issues? Aren't those both personal issues? I mean, kids are a big part of someone's life. They're not just a fluff topic like the weather. Is there a possible disconnect between discerning where the line is between fluff and personal?

There could very well be a disconnect. I admit I don't know all the nuances of the condition. Just what I know about myself.

[JackHatchet]

There could very well be a disconnect. I admit I don't know all the nuances of the condition. Just what I know about myself.

Fair enough! But from my stand-point. Those are two things that I would compare to be equals. They're both personal, every-day things.

But for me. That's kind of a logical thing. I'd think of it more logically than the nuanced emotion. Both things affect people on a personal level. And both things are daily occurrences. So sometimes what confuses me is that I like to look at things from an extremely rational stand-point. Which is why I was talking about all the 'give and take' stuff in another post. I don't always catch nuance, and I'm a firm believer that sarcasm doesn't work on the internet. So I don't always catch sarcasm, but I can catch the context enough to comprehend that sarcasm would make sense in some situations.

I'm still not quite getting where people would feel ostracized from communities though. However, I could see if someone's kids were refereed to as 'small talk' being offensive to some folks. But I know it's not a purposely dimissial about the importance of one's child. Just how one person might not relate or understand.

I guess that's probably fair when it comes to mental-illness. Which kinda goes full circle with mental-illness. People without mental-illness often don't have a desire to learn about certain conditions--because it literally doesn't affect their lives in any way.

Maybe it's all a big circle of give and take. But the lines are always super gray on that stuff. =/

[Nora_of_Mira]

I have to admit. I'm still confused! What's the difference between one person's kids, or one person's health issues? Aren't those both personal issues? I mean, kids are a big part of someone's life. They're not just a fluff topic like the weather. Is there a possible disconnect between discerning where the line is between fluff and personal?

most people that you are casually social with (coworkers, neighbors, people you run into playing this game,etc) GENERALLY don't want to know your personal details right off the bat, nor do they want to divulge their own personal details. "Kids" is generally accepted as casual small talk that MOST people can relate to, while personal health isn't. Imagine,

me: "Hows it going JackHatchet?"
you: "well I just went to doc and they said I have permanently-sweaty-knee-pits and Idk how im going to live like this"
me: "....big yikes"

the conversation between casual acquaintances (ie, not friends) pretty much ends right there. there is nothing I can really say that isnt a hard left turn from what you said that wont make everything worse.

So I would say, the line between fluff and personal is whether or not BOTH parties are willing to relate over something trivial/forgettable or confide in one another details that require more attention and understanding.

edit: i'm very socially anxious so take that how you will. Also, I love all your questions.