Why are standards seen as a crime in this game?

[DPZ2]

I've been saying for years that this community has a terrible problem with mollycoddling subpar players instead of just being real with them.
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Don't be a dick with your delivery, but do be blunt. ...They can then shape up so the rest of the group can stop failing or barring that, if they catch an attitude you can also show them how easy it is to catch a free ride on the Requeue Train where they can wait for another group that might not care about success.

Define 'subpar players' in terms that don't involve a parser or references to main story content.

When a player gets frustrated and decides it's time to stop 'mollycoddling', "Don't be a dick with your delivery" gets thrown out the window of an airplane flying at 35,000 feet above a volcano.

If you're only complaining in reference to optional content -- well that's fine. It's optional.

And you should be sure to specify that's what you mean.