I never said the DPS should not use their enmity tools. I fully agree that it's everyone's responsibility. But if someone screws up (e.g. by not using their enmity tools) it's the tanks job to make up for their mistake regarding enmity, dealing with enmity is their primary job. As a healer has to heal people screwing up and getting hit by avoidable attacks. But lots of tanks here seem to think that everyone but them has to use their enmity tools. A tank letting a DPS die by neither using the aggro combo more often or a short visit to tank stance because a DPS didn't use their enmity tools is pushing all the responsibility on others, just to increase their personal DPS. The tank even drastically lowers the group's DPS by doing so. And yet, most people here applaud to that behaviour. See
http://forum.square-enix.com/ffxiv/t...nmity-controls
That's the kind of stuff i don't want to deal with anymore, and i think without the DPS number comparisons the issue wouldn't be nearly as prominent.
Btw: Tanks have a DPS stance so they are not slowed down too much when soloing/playing through the story.
fomofu just above is very on point with analyzing the issue. Use your parsers, they are helpful tools, but keep them and all that comes with them where they belong: in the current savage raid, the newest or two ex primals and ultimate content.
This is the last thing i'm going to say in this thread. It's the experience i have made playing this game on on off since the release of ARR, other people's might be different, and there is no convincing each other.