Sexual harassment

[BillyKaplan]

Yea, but you never know until you touch upon it with them tho, or they take the initiative to tell you. We can't read minds.

No, we can't read minds, but the question then becomes how do you approach the subject given this limitation. Do you show a modicum of sensitivity, or do you just bulldoze in on there and use that as an excuse? Hopefully, if you approach a victim of assault in this context, you have some familiarity with them, so while you don't know for sure, you have a good grasp of where to go based on past experience. Alternatively, you're a trained professional who will also know what to do in case you step on a landmine.
What you just said can come off as "well SOME of them MIGHT need to hear it, so let's just tell EVERYONE", which is a bad approach. This thread has deteriorated into absolutes.

Also, the part you quoted is part of a conjunction, it's all dandy and good if you smother them with love and they understand what they've done. What's not ok is that you smother them with love AND they don't understand that they've done something wrong.

And we all agree, so I don't see why you brought it up. What I'm trying to get across is that there's a time and place for that sort of thing, and bringing it up in the wrong way in the wrong time can sooner hurt the victim farther rather than help them recover. Mind you, that is not the same thing as 'never talk to them about lessons they can learn from this'. Again, falling back to absolutes.

[AriaFairchild]

And we all agree, so I don't see why you brought it up. What I'm trying to get across is that there's a time and place for that sort of thing, and bringing it up in the wrong way in the wrong time can sooner hurt the victim farther rather than help them recover. Mind you, that is not the same thing as 'never talk to them about lessons they can learn from this'. Again, falling back to absolutes.

Ah, what I failed to understand is that you said Moro was assuming and generalizing when they did no such thing. They were giving a very specific situation that requires 2 conditions to be met, under a hypothetical question ("if"):

1. everyone just smothers them with love and affection
2. they don't understand that they've done something wrong