Sad experiences of a newbie

[Gemina]

Really? That has not been my experience - well ever.

Does your experience mirror the OP's? i.e. getting to level 53 on a healer without ever using offensive spells in PUGs? If the answer is yes, then I humbly acknowledge your experience relatable to the OP's. If it is no, then your experience reflects my own. I also haven't witnessed healers being harassed in PUGs. A large part of that is because I heal most content I do, but even when I leave the role to others it still hasn't been a problem. The biggest issue I've encountered and also endured is tank harassment. Be that is it may, just because you or I haven't experienced it ourselves, doesn't mean it isn't happening.

The OP had given no actual information about the situation other than he's had bad experiences healing in DF.
6 pages of arguing about speculation is mad - and achieves nothing.
Maybe he's not good at it. People do get mad at healers - it's noticeable when they aren't great; that comes with the gig.
Maybe he's taking more time to adjust to it and will get better - too many maybes to be having an argument on his behalf.

Exactly. So take it at face value. That is all we can do. We know that the OP has a heals-only mentality and it has lead to problems when he/she enters group content. And the DF thread is all you need to know about the endless randomness within PUGs. You give too much leeway; it's not only noticeable when a healer isn't great, they are under such a microscopic view that all of their derps stand out like a sore thumb.

I wanna tell the OP that it's just bad luck as well, but I see no reason to advise that he/she continue to rely on chance rather than taking a hold of the situation on their own.

[Ilyrian]

Does your experience mirror the OP's?

As you say: no, my experience doesn't mirror the OP's because I'm good at healing. I'm good at healing dungeons. I have been from the day I stared because I have been healing in MMOs for the past 12 years. No, I'm not on the bleeding edge of content and I haven't even set foot in Savage yet – but I know how to heal and, IMHO, heal well. So nobody has ever called me out, been rude or harassed me. That is my experience. Obviously the OP has had different one.

People are dicks. People are dicks online. People are dicks in MMOs. I'm not defending anyone being a dick in any sense but it will happen if you're joining a group and can't perform the role you joined to do. Being a healer is not only being good at your job - it's carrying the bad that goes with it - this is not just FFXIV, it all of any online content where you have to take a responsibly, a responsible role. As I said, I have never had a bad experience in an FFXIV dungeon as a healer - at least nothing that I could blame myself for. I'm not a god of healers - I, like the vast majority other players just get on with it.