So...have do you make friends?

[Final-Fantasy]

Is it just me or is this like your warning people to keep away from you.

[Trunks]

Do dungeons or other stuff with random people, when you find someone you like or had fun with, send them a friend request. Two clicks! A lot of the time it's that simple. People don't even have to be on your server for this anymore.

Otherwise the #1 way into an FFXIV player's heart is to compliment their glamour (or their house). Nearly every non-FC/RL friend on my list got there this way.

Duty Finder conditions people into thinking that nobody ever wants to talk, but the opposite is really true -- it's just that pretty much everyone's been conditioned in the same way. It can be scary to initiate, but somebody has to take the first step.

[DDkiki]

That's a whole different sort of problem my friend. Can't have your cake and eat it too - either you get people to notice you or you don't. If social interaction is that frightening to you you might want to see a therapist. Note, I'm not saying you're nuts or anything, I think it's actually a pretty common problem for folks - just that your mental state seems to be conflicting with a goal of yours, which they might be able to help you with.

Well, being super socially active and wanting to just find the little community to be with it's different but you are right and that's me who is the problem here, well, mostly my always active self-defence state of mind, that shell that I can't destroy.

[Zarabeth]

I tend to befriend shy people. I simply stalk them until they give in and be my friend.

[LockeCole]

When I was younger, and stupider, I tended not to socialize or interact with many people. Even in MMO's I was very goal oriented; achievements, raid accomplishments, gear sets, etc. I didn't appreciate the small connections or friendships that I had made. Now that I am older, I have found that the smallest interaction or relationship should be appreciated. This may sound corny - but at the end of the day, it really is the truth.

Being on a server with no friends, no real personal connection can be extremely daunting. It's like you're in a crowded room, but no one can see you. You're going to have to make them notice you. You can start small, look at Party Finder, find events that you can join and socialize. Find a large, active, social Free Company that you can hide in and observe for awhile. Eventually you'll build all of these small connections and relationships and this anxiety will fade. Good Luck! :3

[Riko_Futatabi]

Well, being super socially active and wanting to just find the little community to be with it's different but you are right and that's me who is the problem here, well, mostly my always active self-defence state of mind, that shell that I can't destroy.

I'll destroy that shell for you! I love elezen! If only you were on the Primal Data center, I'd befriend you. :P

[tinythinker]

There is also this thread: http://forum.square-enix.com/ffxiv/t...-Megathread%21

I should probably actively seek out people for my friends list as well for this game but I seem to mostly do fine with people in PF and DF, except for those few...

Anyway, good luck finding a little group that you are comfortable with.

[Ghastly]

Linkshells

In shout chat ask for hunt linkshells, ask for friendly linkshell to join, ask for elezen only linkshell to join (these race linkshells are the best :3 shout out to my roegadyns in cactuar) and things like that.

Linkshells are such a great way of finding people and then joining their fc if they're nice enough

By the way joining big FCs is always a gamble. Try joining the small FCs that have 3-8 active people. Those will include you in everything they can.

[Hitsuzen]

I randomly start chatting with people in world events and making jokes to see if we clique.

[Nestmile]

My FF social life was dead until I became a mentor and started participating in the Novice Network. Since then, I've met many great friends, and even though I've had the NN turned off for a while now, I'm in a few social linkshells that are very active and a hunt linkshell that is practically an FC as well. One of my best friends in game I actually met in Kugane just by switching jobs for a while and spamming actions at him as he did the same to me, until I finally switched to MCH and he sent me a /tell that was something like "oh, I don't have that one maxed yet." We spent hours talking after that. Sometimes you really do just have to put yourself out there a little. I'm quite shy as well, and I know it's hard, but the payoffs are so worth it. Best of luck to you!