So...have do you make friends?

[BigRed5392]

My g/f has ASD and communicating can be hard for her, her trick is separate yourself from your character. How do you want your character to act? you don't need to role play either.

She got this trick from a guy who for 4 years, she though was a girl. He made a female elvaan samuria and was pretty popular he said he didn't care of ppl thought he was a boy or girl, as people was meeting his character, not him. He was playing ff11 to escape irl. A lot of people do, tons of ppl play who have depression and anxiety.

but the beauty of playing mmorpg is you can be anyone you want, no rp required. Do you wanna be a hero? wanna be a villian? do you want to set up a craft shop, and sell items you make and services? do you want to be a contracted gatherer helping crafters get mats?

again no rp required.

i met my g/f in ff14, im very quiet and anti social. I was a female miqo'te at the time, and she was a lalafell. She said i made a cool miqo'te and we just got to talking, she had just joined the fc my friend from high school used to ran. She was shy/ anti social and mostly talk to him at first then became more open.

they ended up having a fight sadly, but instead of leaving she sought me out for comfort, seeing I was a good person. From then on we dated 4 years in game, and she moved in with me last year.

So if someone who is not very social, and someone with Autism can meet up, then anyone can do anything.

pro tip though, don't force yourself. It tends to backfire bad. If you see a person with cool glamour, say "hey cool glam" or "hey cool outfit"

[MrGiostar]

That'd be nice, itll be nice to talk about end game stuff. My only friend is taking 10billion years to beat heavensward

[Rhus]

I find louisoix to be very friendly. Myself a few of my fc companions were in costa del sol having fun with minions and mounts not long ago and we got a bit of a group going with strangers. It was like a mount/minion flash mob and I'm sure some even came for the fun/sight after word got out.
I think just to echo, if you see someone running around and they stop, say hi. It's how I got recruited into the fc I'm in (leader saw me running around without an affiliation and sent a tell) it's how you can guarantee someone is "at home" and not afk.
Even f someone is on the forum say hi to your fellow forumer.
Point is if you're looking you gotta put int he effort. We aren't mind readers and don't know you're looking for a friend in game if you don't say or /tell lol

[MrGiostar]

I find louisoix to be very friendly. Myself a few of my fc companions were in costa del sol having fun with minions and mounts not long ago and we got a bit of a group going with strangers. It was like a mount/minion flash mob and I'm sure some even came for the fun/sight after word got out.
I think just to echo, if you see someone running around and they stop, say hi. It's how I got recruited into the fc I'm in (leader saw me running around without an affiliation and sent a tell) it's how you can guarantee someone is "at home" and not afk.
Even f someone is on the forum say hi to your fellow forumer.
Point is if you're looking you gotta put int he effort. We aren't mind readers and don't know you're looking for a friend in game if you don't say or /tell lol

It wasn't that I was looking for people I just want people to communicate more in dungeons

[Laerune]

A common mistake that alot of people do is expect that other players will come to them. Unless you are a famous or infamous player, odds are people will just walk by, instead of talk with you. This is why you need to take the first step, talk with people. Alot of my friends are people with whom I just start talking, we talked, we added each other to our friendlist and then we started hanging out toghter.

My advice, join a FC and be active when it comes to being social with others. Your first time will not be perfect and for some it might be scary taking the first step, but if you are persistent, you will find new friends.

[dotsforlife]

Communication is everything. Social interaction is a waning trait (skill?) among people (especially younger generations) these days. You have to be able to get past your personal issues/mindset if you want to meet the goals you've set for yourself. If you can't step out of your comfort zone you shouldn't expect anything from anyone else. That's just how it is.

That being said, it's all trial and error. Gotta sift through the trash until you find like minded people you click with. I played this game when it originally released and quit shortly after. Came back after the relaunch because an IRL friend said it was much better. He ended up quitting a month or so later due to IRL priorities so I had to make new friends. Been with my group ever since then and haven't looked back. Even friends with them IRL and somewhat involved with each other's lives.

It's not hard to make friends. Just put the effort in and don't sweat the small stuff. As some have recommended, VOIP is a great way to interact with others, but to each their own. Some find it easier to just type in game. Just get out there and try.

[Paladinleeds]

Try being in luisoix, it's rare for people to even say hello in dungeon.

My experience has been the opposite tbh. There's a lot of friendliness even on Louisoix.

That being said, to the OP. Try to face your fears a bit at a time. It's not gonna be easy, it's gonna launch you out of your comfort zone, but you'll get there eventually. We're on the same datacentre, so that might help. Be advised though, I'm completely outgoing and can be quite intense without meaning to (despite being an introvert apparently, work THAT one out...).

[miraidensetsu]

One other thing I'll throw in, if your FC has a discord or something - get in the discord. 90% of the activity happens over voice chat, always.

That makes me think on tranfer to Behemoth. I'm not confident in spoken english (since it's pretty bad), since it isn't my main language. I'm on FC, added it to Facebook and Discord, but never went to voice chat.

And on Behemot there are entire FC's with people from my country.

[Hruodig]

I met one of my best friends while doing fates in northern thanalan. He was shit-posting in shout chat, and I started going along with it. Eventually I noticed he had no fc, so I asked him if he wanted to join mine, he said why not.

Tl;dr make really stupid jokes in shout chat, eventually someone who's just as stupid as you are will notice.

[Canopia]

I dont make friends in these sorts of games, people are less friends and more like fellow employees that I dont see when Im off work. No singular person has ever treated me like anything less, so I go into it with the same mentality.