The problem is that there's no set pace to go at. If I pull big a healer at some point is going to get mad, if I pull small a healer is going to at some point get mad, if I pull just right the healer might just get mad anyway because everyone always thinks they can do someone's job better than them, regardless of whether or not it's true. Without any input, I will continue to pull at the pace that has worked for me in countless other runs of the dungeon.

I'm not here to get in a tug-of-war with anyone, I just want to get through the dungeon as smoothly as possible. If the tank is pulling too big: tell them. If they're pulling too small: tell them. Otherwise, we'll continue to do as we've done. Now, who you should REALLY be mad at are the DPS who think they run the show and try to pull more mobs.