Are tanks a scapegoat for performance issues?

[HyoMinPark]

In most of the situations (but not all of them), it seems like it's "easier" for people to blame either the tank:

• Overgeared DPS going ham on one mob, steal aggro from the tank. DPS then proceeds to tell the tank to "git gud" rather than manage their own aggro generation.

Or blame the healer:

• Tank is biting off more than he can chew, at either the behest of the DPS (or healer), or to just look like a big baddie tank. Tank then doesn't use cooldowns, and overwhelms the healer, leading to the tank dying because the healer is unable to keep up, or...

• DPS (or healer) decide to "help" the tank by pulling more mobs than the tank is comfortable with. Tank either a.) doesn't take the mobs off the DPS/healer, who then dies, followed by the healer/other DPS, or b.) tank takes the mobs, but is overwhelmed and dies, followed by the healer, and then the DPS in a domino effect. People then proceed to blame either/both the healer (for not keeping everyone alive while simultaneously being a punching bag) and the tank (not taking the mobs/doing the "standard pulls").

Regardless of who is at fault, it's usually "easier" to tell when a tank or healer is messing up, although if one pays close attention to DPS, one can also tell when they mess up.

Don't get me wrong; there are definitely bad DPS that I have noticed a lot in this game. I have often out-DPS'd some on my AST (even with me buffing THEM). And there are also poor tanks and poor healers. There's just less of the two latter groups, so the bad ones are easier to spot, compared to the ocean of DPS, who tend to go unnoticed in most dungeons (usually). Usually, the one who is pointing the finger and placing the blame is usually the one who is a hindrance. People don't want to admit their own faults/mistakes, so they pin them on someone else. Tanks and healers are the easiest targets.

I used to enjoy tanking on DRK, but I got tired of getting AFK/Netflix healers and DPS that thought they would "help" me pull more mobs than I wanted to pull. That's one reason I stopped pugging as a tank, and only tank in premade parties with my friends. Tanks set the pace of the dungeon, not the DPS. Sometimes, if the healer is undergeared, they set the pace. But people are so impatient, and just want to bulldoze right though dungeons.