Harassing Healers - or: Please allow Parsers

[BigRed5392]

It's not normal to get kicked this much, to be honest. I've been playing this game since 1.0 and have been kicked a grand total of one time (because I was pointing out the lack of DPS from 2 bards in Longstop Hard back when it had just come out and they didn't appreciate that ). All the people I play with practically never get kicked either. So if she truly gets kicked 3 times a day, maybe try to see the common factor in all those kicks (= her) instead of insisting on placing the blame on everyone else.

I didn't mean to convey she gets 3 times a day. but people are that rude to her. When she is kick, it is because she is an easier target. They assume she is rude based on her typing from what I can tell. She is not a bad person and only ask questions if confused by something.

But the whole "if you are surrounded by mean people, and you're the consent, it means you're the mean person" has a few out-liners. As in there are exceptions to that and people just end up with mean players. Idk if you can tell based on these forums, but NA community is kinda vindictive, and are a "kick first" ask why later type. If you don't experienced getting kick, good for you. Your lucky. (not being snarky) My GF has trouble communicating and when she ask question people assume she is being rude. No matter how she tried to clarify herself people jump the gun, and just label her as rude.

She had another experience like this, in a lowbie dungeon with a new player and their friends. the New players was hitting different targets and my g/f told them if they attack the same target stuff dies faster. The 2 friends assumed she was being rude, and started to be snarky in the dungeon.
She started to notice the new person would stop attacking in between mobs, and simply ask "why do you stop attacking between mob?". Again is very confused and trying to help. The 2 friends just trash on my g.f, and starts to ask why they are being rude, as my g/f is just confused and not doing anything wrong.

She wasn't insulting the new player, she wasn't swearing, nor name calling. Yet they kept digging into her.

I group up with her, as well as live with her, and she is not a mean person. She just get stressed out easy when dealing with others due to anxiety from her ASD. But she isn't mean. And she tries to do what people want of her, unless my g/f knows she can't do something but is polite about it.

My guess is she gets teamed up with people who are stressed out over these arbitrary rules players make up, and they take it out on others. Or runs into people who are the ones that enforce these rules, and is unable to please them, which these players get impatient and vindictive.

So instead of assume this stuff isn't normal based on your experiences, try to ask questions.

Assumption is how people get kicked from duties.