What is up with this toxic community

[TouchandFeel]

While the message is "probably" about to strive to improve and learn, do you honestly think that self blaming for every mistake, even the ones you objectively don't commit, is the way to go? A tank should always learn from the mistakes, not just say "it's my fault" and move on, not whipping him/herself because of it. And this is a surprise because this is the quintessence of toxicity!

Shougun said it for me really: it's fine if that's your way of thought, but don't you try to share it with others as it basically tells you that no matter the mistake you do, even made from others, it's always your fault regardless of what happened and that is objectively wrong. I do mistakes but you won't see me doing self inflicted punishment because of it and nobody should because, as you said, this is a game and should be enjoyed and not worked on.

And this deeply saddens me because people praise this game for having one of the best communities around, yet it also has one of the most elitistic mindsets I've ever seen in an mmorpg.

I'm not sure you understood what I said or if you read all of it.

I spoke to that exact point and said that people should not do that, in fact I repeated "people should not blame themselves for things outside their control, such as the actions of others" multiple times.

As I already said, you are not responsible for the actions of another, only your reaction to them.

Also, please read the last two paragraphs of my response to Shougun that was directly above yours as it outlines my feelings towards "responsibility" in a party.