Does it get any better?

[Reinha]

I've had people just without words stop healing me, then after death say "That's why you let the tank pull".

So you expect the healer to spam heal you, a clothie, and that's supposed to make the run faster? I'm guessing you haven't tried healing in this game. Checking your lodestone profile... yup a grand total of 0 levels on healers.

Here's the thing. By making the healer spend more time healing you than they'd have to in order to keep up a tank you're preventing the healer from doing significant amounts of damage. The biggest difference in clear speed comes from whether the healer is doing 0 dps or all the dps they can.

So if we discard all other valid reasons to kick you (like stressing the healer, stressing the tank, not allowing TP to generate or making things more difficult for melee with positional attacks) and we just look at what's efficient, you are still in the wrong. Preventing the healer from doing damage is a huge dps loss. Making positioning harder for the tank can make melee miss their positionals or chase mobs, and that's another dps loss. Your preferred play style is not only annoying to everyone around you but also goes against what you're trying to accomplish. I recommend you drop this counterproductive habit.

I came to understand the situation not seek empathy.

You came here calling everyone else kids and blaming other people for not catering to your whims. Addressing people in such a way does not imply you're trying to understand other points of view.