I agree with the OP. I love tanking and tanked in lots of different mmos. But in ffxiv the only difference in playing a tank and a dps is the CDs. As a tank my rotation is to maximize my dps as much as possible the same as a dps. I gear up my tank to maximize my dps the same as a dps. The moment I focus on mitigating as much damage as possible on my tank I'm considered garbage by the community. I play a tank to feel well like a tank. Not a bruiser.