why so mean?

[Sakuraluna]

I hate to be the one saying "google it" but...

I googled. A LOT.
This is my first MMO so like you I didn't know a lot of lingo and I just googled every single time I heard something I didn't know.

As for people being mean; just stay polite, don't get defensive.If someone keeps yelling at you simply stop answering, if you really can't take it anymore just leave and find a new group to do the content with. There is no need to let yourself be frustrated by someone who probably just had a bad day our ran into the same problem 15 times in a row who keeps verbally abusing you.

If you are trying, and doing your best there is nothing more you can do.

I'm actually going to interject here. First off, the "go google it" thing... I completely understand, doing your research beforehand does help out immensely. But telling someone to google something while in-game won't help the current situation at all and it actually comes across as condescending and lazy as other people in the thread have said. It only works when there is free time before or after the dungeon and when the person has a clear idea of what terms they need to be googling, and it still doesn't invalidate asking questions and giving tips during the dungeon. Because watching a video or reading up on something and actually experiencing that thing firsthand are two different things, one can leave you more prepared for the other but can never fully take its place.

Secondly, I can't really say I care how bad a day someone has had or how many times they've run that instance. Those are thin excuses for bad behavior. If some people are going to be outright abusive towards others, then those other players have the right to not put up with it. For me, it depends on the severity of the situation; I've had to go as far as reporting someone to a gm before for verbal harassment and griefing. "Mean" is just a simplified blanket term for what I'm assuming the OP is talking about in reference to df most probably. Some of the works of art that df drops into your party will zoom right past "mean" and off into a completely different territory before you can say hello. :3

[Alice_89th]

I'm actually going to interject here. First off, the "go google it" thing... I completely understand, doing your research beforehand does help out immensely. But telling someone to google something while in-game won't help the current situation at all and it actually comes across as condescending and lazy as other people in the thread have said. It only works when there is free time before or after the dungeon and when the person has a clear idea of what terms they need to be googling, and it still doesn't invalidate asking questions and giving tips during the dungeon. Because watching a video or reading up on something and actually experiencing that thing firsthand are two different things, one can leave you more prepared for the other but can never fully take its place.

I have never told anyone to google, and I won't tell anyone in the future. Also I am not talking about strategies or something like that.
Really sorry if it came across condescending but what I meant was that I googled. A LOT. And no that doesn't help you that moment, but after I found something I didn't know I'd google it when I had my hands free again. I googled a lot of things. I googled some things multiple times.

This remark was meant independent of how other people behave, but about your own pro-activity. Though I got the impression that the OP is trying his/her best and that is more than enough. You can't do more than that.

Secondly, I can't really say I care how bad a day someone has had or how many times they've run that instance. Those are thin excuses for bad behavior. If some people are going to be outright abusive towards others, then those other players have the right to not put up with it. For me, it depends on the severity of the situation; I've had to go as far as reporting someone to a gm before for verbal harassment and griefing. "Mean" is just a simplified blanket term for what I'm assuming the OP is talking about in reference to df most probably. Some of the works of art that df drops into your party will zoom right past "mean" and off into a completely different territory before you can say hello. :3

Of course it is a bad excuse. But it is still something that happens.
Maybe the person on the other side is just a jerk, maybe they were just having a bad day, I don't know.