I especially like it when dps in gear over ilvl 90 in low level dungeons give you shit for not holding aggro, when as a lower leveled tank it's really, really hard to keep up with them.

Like, for real people? You're in the full soldiery bard set. You should be able to tell that you're out damaging the ability to keep hate off you, you've made it far enough that even a dps should know how the emnity indicators work... Oh, right, they just don't care. :/