When I say the "Armor De-Gender's" Us I mean things like the new i100 Soldiery Gear. Even on Females it it makes it look like you have pecks and 8 pack abs, It removes any sense of what gender shape the person wearing it is. They could be male or female under it, but the design of it is obviously masculine.
As for "Frilly" When I say that I mean things that range from the Sipahi set to the new Light Plate Glamour armor. Stuff that's not just a male graphic forced on a female character. There are a lot of choices for glamour which I'm thankful for. And I change it up quite often. While appearing gendered externally is not a sign of someones internal gender, some people embrace their external gendered appearance and enjoy dressing up for it. This doesn't make them more or less the gender they identify as.
Not all Females prefer to dress conservatively.