Being Gendered Correctly

[Lilysparkle]

Rather tpyically, the only ppl making a big deal about it, are the ones that generally disagree with the OP.

She wasn't asking for the world. .-. More or less it was just to try and encourage ppl that if it's a male character, use he/him, if it's a female character, use she/her. ;o And if anyone takes a moment to correct you, then no problem.

Your first point of contact with a person is their avatar, and this is a Role Playing Game with gendered races. I understand the points being made about the higher probability of the person being male but I'm afraid this isn't a good enough reason. Ppl are saying that it's a higher probability of them being male, but then go on to say that it's bad to use the gender of the character as you don't know anything about the person in rl? Hmm. Yes, none of us know anything about each other when we first meet someone in game, so it seems to me the most appropriate thing to do is to refer to them by their character's gender. Is this starting to make sense yet?

Even if no one wishes to change, that's fine, but I hope at least you can show that you understand this way of looking at it.

[mythicrose]

Rather tpyically, the only ppl making a big deal about it, are the ones that generally disagree with the OP.

She wasn't asking for the world. .-. More or less it was just to try and encourage ppl that if it's a male character, use he/him, if it's a female character, use she/her. ;o And if anyone takes a moment to correct you, then no problem.

While I understand your point, even calling people she/he based on avatar is going to upset people. This is only my personal view. There are far worse things I've seen in chat than simpley being called a "he" or "she".

People assume I'm male because I play a large-breasted catgirl and like to dress her in skimpy outfits. But I'm female.

Cat girls are B-cups at best. If you wanted a large bust, you should've gone with a Roe.

[NaliaBrown]

Cat girls are B-cups at best. If you wanted a large bust, you should've gone with a Roe.

Lol, yeah. True. I picked catgirl because I like cats. And, in some outfits, her boobs are enormous. When I created the character, I did adjust the "bust" slider all the way up. So for a catgirl, she's large-breasted. Part of me is thinking of using my Fantasia potion to change to a Roe lady. They can be sexy, and there are so many catgirls.

[Lilysparkle]

While I understand your point, even calling people she/he based on avatar is going to upset people.

Thank you for at least acknowledging that. I won't dispute what you're saying, we could be upsetting someone in many ways without realising. However, again imho, I just don't think it's silly or bad to address someone by their character's gender. We're not running around as gender neutral entities, nor are we all running around as male characters. I think it's the lesser of two evils to address someone by their character's gender, than to exclusively use one gender over the other in all situations. You cannot really be blamed for addressing someone as their character gender because that is what that person knowingly chose to play. At the end of the day, if the female miq'ote whitemage is getting upset at you calling him a "she", then maybe he could have made a male miq'ote (they look pretty cool too).

[Vilhem]

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That's all fine and dandy and ofc I'm always open to discussions regarding this but...the fact that OP is having feelings hurt over this is what many people are responding to, really. It's a game, we see only pixels on our screen, how are people to know who is behind the screen, much less that their personal feelings ride on being called the correct gender? It's a bit silly isn't it?