Quote Originally Posted by FJerome View Post
"They". The pronoun you're looking for is the singular they.
It would be wrong to use "they" in the context the OP is arguing about.

Example:

When I tell someone a joke, they laugh.

In the example above, using "they" is correct since someone doesn't refer to a specific person. It can refer to any one person just not a specific one.


When I tell Jane a joke, she laughs.

In the example above, it is wrong to use "they" since i am specifically referring to Jane.


If I were to use the OP's name as an example,

Kimmy Dee tells a lot of funny jokes. She is a funny person.

It is wrong to use "they" in that context (even the singular they). And the English language doesn't have any word to replace he/she as a genderless term. And as someone said, using "it" is definitely worse.