Quote Originally Posted by Ardeth View Post
But how? I always join FCs and friend groups wanting to play with others and they're never on. If they are on they're on different servers and they are busy doing something. After a few weeks of passing "Hellos" and "goodnights" are they your friends?

I'm an adult I have a job. I'm not going to lie to you and say I'm giving it 110% because I'm not, but I've tried and tried and tried. I'm fucking sick of it. Why is it so hard to find people who want to play the fucking game they're paying for?

But you know what it's a "me" problem.

Not the groups of silent players in duties or the clumps of silent players in major cities who don't give a shit about you. The players who if they even do say anything give you an "o/" and a "gg" The only time anyone engages in anything it's negativity. Either you or someone else sucks and they feel the need to dunk on you.

I'm just so tired of this socially inept response that it's because of "you" and not "them." Because you don't know me.

You don't work all week to have your FC filled with people social time be you playing solo.

Because that me every day. And nothing I do seems to solve this issue.
People DC travel all the time, that's why FC's have discord chats, it's to do meetups if wanted.

The "I have a job" excuse doesnt fly not gonna lie, there's a lot of people with a job in the game and some with a lot of friends.

With that said, the vision of friendship for most people in FFXIV is very interesting to say the least, from my own experience, I've had people I hadnt talked to for 6 months (even tho they played the game) tell me they were my best friend when they talked to me again after that long, and I stared at them and I was like "No you're not ? If we were best friends you wouldnt ignore my existence for 6 months"

TLDR : You expect too much from this game, FF14 is an afk simulator/hangout simulator with a tiny side of content, the faster you accept that the better you'll be in the long run.