Quote Originally Posted by SannaR View Post
Some feel that he is fine with his mother constantly using fussy little bun bun and calling him by his birth name and not trying to correct her or askingherto stop as him being fine with it.
Something that I've seen people raise is that this is actually pretty in-keeping with some hispanic cultures; you just have multiple names for multiple contexts, it doesn't mean any of them are wrong names, they're just for different groups and different places; I feel like the most common instance we might be aware of outside of those cultures is kids going by a different first name at school, maybe because their given name is difficult. So Elenesh'pya is his 'home name', and Erenville is maybe more of his 'work name', and that's fine.

I think a lot of people actually mentally defaulted to something more like a trans person's deadname (ironic, given how some parts of the fanbase seem to hate trans people, but that's not important right now and I like that the lore subforum is mostly free of that). I know I did at first, but mostly in the context of congratulating Gulool Ja Ja for having exactly the right response. The fact it never comes up at all between Erenville and Cahciua does sort of correct that assumption--no, my mother does not get a pass for using my deadname, so the fact Cahciua doesn't get blowback, that means it's not.