Why Erenville succeeded as a character where others did not

[SannaR]

Erenville is 25 according to the 3rd EE; so still a baby for a race that can live to 300. I wouldn't call his relationship with his mother abusive, but it is very complicated and I could see how some see it as toxic. Some feel that he is fine with his mother constantly using fussy little bun bun and calling him by his birth name and not trying to correct her or asking her to stop as him being fine with it. To me with how he reacts it reminds me of how I grew up. Even though my parents weren't of the Silent generation my extended family sort of held that whole mind set; the one of children should be seen not heard. That you can't stand up for yourself and if you do try to you get told not to sas your elders. While also being made to feel shame for even thinking of doing so.

They have a complex relationship as not only is Cahchiua his mother, but also his mentor. They hint that it might not be the best one when he comments on seeing her name on the epitaph. It also comes off as he is suspicious of his mother still being alive from the start. She tries to reassure him by saying her body is in a safe place but then that scene in Solution 9 happens and at least to me is when tries to find some release but to no avail. So it just builds up til that moment in Living Memory as he knows any other time isn't going to be productive. He also seems to know any real choice words he'd want to shout at her wouldn't be worth it. That again to me at least he's realized that he is in one of those situations where you're dealing with a terminally ill person on their deathbed. You know those kinds of situations where you go along with whatever morphine addled mind ideas come up with. As it's more important to send them off on a good note and a smile.