This is the thing, the posters on here crying make it out like every single Tank does this when if you're lucky you'll see it once a month.

Healers have so much healing now that in normal modes or dungeons there is absolutely no excuse for letting your teammates die outside of one shot mechanics or getting hit with several things at once. Rez is at 40s with a swiftcast. What has possibly gone so wrong that you have 5-7 dead teammates in your party and somehow the blame is now on the Tank?

DPS, melee especially have a lot of self sustain now also and they can survive for several minutes also without a healer via potions/bloodbath/2nd Wind and other abilities. They also should not be dying to basic mechanics but no one says anything to them when they die.

Instead of flaming your Tanks for not dying, try asking your healers and DPS what went wrong and try to correct it instead. Did they use their self sustain? Did they use their mitigation? Most of the time you'll find the answer is no. You rarely see Addle or Feint up for raidwides, even when they know the damage will kill them, but they will absolutely be the first ones in chat to start complaining. When's the last time most of you used potions?

No one is holding you hostage, you just make yourself victims. It's not the same thing. If you don't like it leave and be done with it. You'll find hostages in real life just don't have the option to just leave when they don't like something, so stop calling it something it's not. Do the mechanics properly and you'll increase your chances of surviving. It's not a hard game, new stuff will trip you up and that's absolutely fine but you should never be dying to simple mechanics you were shown in ARR/HW. Catch yourselves on. How are you not embarrassed to show your faces on here complaining like 5 year olds. Shocking stuff.