How many more times must our Living Dead get griefed?

[AnjouMaaka]

In all my years playing FF14, I can count on one hand the number of times I've seen a healer grief a tank (including DRK's). It's an incredibly rare occurrence, presumably because the vast majority of players just want to complete content with as little conflict as possible. With it being such a rarity, the idea that it's consistently happening to you seems unlikely (unless you are somehow doing something to provoke the ire of your teammates).

Healing is not griefing; healing keeps you alive. Only not healing can be griefing. If you cast Living Dead and your healer heals you, congratulations, you're still alive, which is the entire reason you cast Living Dead in the first place. Unless there's some secret behavior of Living Dead that isn't described in the tooltip, it doesn't matter whether Living Dead keeps you alive or the healer keeps you alive; the result is the same.

It's almost certain that what you're considering "griefing" is just healers seeing that your health went below a certain threshold and switching from DPS to healing in order to keep the tank alive.

You are so wrong with this comment. This happens every single time I pop living dead, they go out of their way to ensure the invuln is wasted and then the moment they've seen that their griefing tactics are successful, they stop healing, and I get torn through like paper because they blew everything they had on making me waste my living dead, and I have no more mitigations to pop at this point. And I am not doing anything to provoke this behavior out of them. I don't even type in the in-game chat anymore because of how offended players get over the smallest things. So no, you have no idea how often this happens and as I stated before, I can't be the only one having this experience. I wouldn't be here with valid complaints about it if it wasn't unprovoked behavior.

[LilimoLimomo]

You are so wrong with this comment. This happens every single time I pop living dead, they go out of their way to ensure the invuln is wasted and then the moment they've seen that their griefing tactics are successful, they stop healing, and I get torn through like paper because they blew everything they had on making me waste my living dead, and I have no more mitigations to pop at this point. And I am not doing anything to provoke this behavior out of them. I don't even type in the in-game chat anymore because of how offended players get over the smallest things. So no, you have no idea how often this happens and as I stated before, I can't be the only one having this experience. I wouldn't be here with valid complaints about it if it wasn't unprovoked behavior.

I mean, I honestly don't know what to say. In all my time playing as a DRK I can't remember a single time when the healer has just let me die. I've never even felt like I needed to use Living Dead* on anything, including double-pulls. I'm sure I've wiped, but nothing about those times made me feel like it occurred out of malice rather than just "nobody's perfect", especially because yeah, DRK is a bit squishy so it can be trickier for a healer to keep up. And when I've run auto-matched content with DRK's, I'm similarly not seeing anything that seems out of the ordinary.

Taking your experiences at your word, my best attempt at fitting both of our narratives into a cohesive singular reality is to wonder if there's some kind of meaningful cultural difference between the Primal and Aether datacenters. Maybe on Primal, lots of people actively hate DRK's, while on Aether that's just not a thing? Or maybe healers are significantly worse on Primal? My brain says that both of these possibilities are unlikely, but I have to admit that unlikely isn't the same as impossible.


*I've never liked using Living Dead because of how risky it was back in the day, and even though I know it's more reliable now, old habits die hard.