Quote Originally Posted by AnjouMaaka View Post
I can't be the only player here that's amazed by how many healers there are in the game, that refuse to heal until you pop your living dead, and then the moment you do, they grief you out of the walking dead proc, making you waste it, and then the party wipes to the dungeon pull because the healer goes right back to not healing you the moment they see their intentional griefing was successful.
In all my years playing FF14, I can count on one hand the number of times I've seen a healer grief a tank (including DRK's). It's an incredibly rare occurrence, presumably because the vast majority of players just want to complete content with as little conflict as possible. With it being such a rarity, the idea that it's consistently happening to you seems unlikely (unless you are somehow doing something to provoke the ire of your teammates).

Healing is not griefing; healing keeps you alive. Only not healing can be griefing. If you cast Living Dead and your healer heals you, congratulations, you're still alive, which is the entire reason you cast Living Dead in the first place. Unless there's some secret behavior of Living Dead that isn't described in the tooltip, it doesn't matter whether Living Dead keeps you alive or the healer keeps you alive; the result is the same.

It's almost certain that what you're considering "griefing" is just healers seeing that your health went below a certain threshold and switching from DPS to healing in order to keep the tank alive.