Quote Originally Posted by Gemina View Post
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Well, I think we're both genuinely different and that's okay! I'm way more social by nature and tend wish that maaaaybe a meaningful friendship might blossom from many interactions. Here's what I think.

Why shouldn't it be a thing?

If I remove you from my friendlist, it means I have no interest in interacting with you anymore most likely, or we're not close enough. Is there a reason for me to stay on your list? I can't think of one, to me it feels weird. This isn't real life, neither should it be- because it's really hard to have a feel of someone just from the few interactions you had, that person could be a mutual in your friend circle.

I admit, I didn't really think adding people came with an issue, I used to be really social and I love interacting with people, perhaps within these interactions a meaningful friendship might form. In my 4-5 years of playing the game I came out with 2-3 really good friends I trust so far, but I also met plenty that I regret knowing/interacting with. I agree with you, immediate friend requests are something I regret, I used to accept them all on my main because to me I felt bad/guilty/ungrateful if someone is showing interest in wanting to communicate and I shut them down then I feel like I'm an asshole.

I don't add anyone anymore, but I also miss chatting with people, just for fun and not having to worry about being plastered permanently on their friendlist. I feel really guilty when I decline friend requests but my anxiety trumps all else now and I hate it. I abandoned my main because of that system, I had too many people on him and the thought of being permanently on people's FL before I even knew how this system works is just hmmm weird. I agree with you that yes, one should be careful who they add, but sometimes someone misjudges someone, or someone is just hiding their intents- you live and learn. I don't think the game should give anyone this weird dreadful feeling of 'yep you're on my friendlist forever, good luck'