Friend Removal should be bothways

[Rueby]

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It's so funny that in this great community I experienced and heard about the worst dramas and actually reached a point where I dreaded waking up. Perhaps not everyone is running into the best of the community. This game has alot of amazing people, but let's not pretend everyone is sunshine and rainbows. I've been in drama and heard of drama that I've never imagined was possible.

You won't really get to know someone unless you add them, some people don't really show who they are until months later. If we're close and bestfriends, we'd be talking often, you wouldn't be giving me a reason (in my opinion) to remove you. I'm not going to remove you based on whims, if I had positive interactions with you, then I have no reason to remove you, you gave me no reason to feel unsafe.

This game does so little to protect people's privacy.
Someone got your Lodestone URL? Good luck, no amount of name changes/world swaps can ever save you.
Had a really bad experience with someone? Good luck, you added them and now you're forever on their list.
Literally blocked someone who was on your list? Good luck, you're still on their friendlist.
Not in an instance? The Player Search is few clicks away.

An argument can be made that some people are unhinged and might actually start acting upon realizing they've been removed/blocked. I experienced this with a dude who decided I was the love of his life after few weeks of interaction and stalked me for years across social media- it stemmed from the fact that he forced my hand. I tried to communicate with him at the time and still am not interested in relationships but he kept acting like I was his GF, when I removed him he went crazy. So...I can see this being a dilemma.

1. I'd like agency over my privacy
2. I don't know if wanting agency over my privacy will cause someone to turn into an unhinged stalker

I think both situations are valid and both situations are very scary. Not feeling safe or feeling like you're tracked is awful and I don't wish it upon anyone. I was interested to see the counter arguments, but I guess I presented a counter argument for my own suggestion. This is the 'on the fence' situation that I spoke about in my OP.

If you removed me from your list on a whim or if you opted out of communicating with me...then we were never close and if we were I'd be hurt, but I'd maybe reach out, if not then I'll respect it and move on.

I want to be able to add people, get to know them, and if things don't work out, we can go our seperate ways without compromising anyone's privacy. I just want some agency over my privacy/location/activity. If there was an appear offline option I'd happily use it. Or perhaps a way to select certain friends to appear online to. I don't know honestly.

[Charles_Mephist]

> This just kind of reeks of undervaluing the meaning of the word friend, and that people are being added to your list and taken off of it, on day to day whims.

You literally need to be friends in game to send something as basic as mails to someone else. Game already does a good job at devaluating it