It's really interesting to see people trying to invalidate feedback by using statements 'it's the same picture' and 'it's just the light'. We all are paying customers here and this is a product we're getting. I don't think things must be black or white. Why should you be happy at my expense? Why should I be happy at your expense? If we focus on the either or we'd never reach a solution.
I don't think the devs are 'decieving' us intentionally, it's hard to discern 'feeling' or 'vibe' from something you haven't spent much time with. I'd like to think the people who worked on our characters may have a bias, as someone who is an amateur artist- sometimes a personal bias might carry through- perhaps out of passion. I made it beautiful, but perhaps in my attempt to make something beautiful in my eyes, it lost some charm to you, I'd love your feedback as I'm providing you with a product. This is an oversimplification of course.
Stop trying to silence feedback because it's negative. At worst DT might get delayed, but what spurred so many to take to the forums is not just 'oh it's in your head' and 'you're being dramatic'. A good artist should see negative feedback as an opportunity to improve- I think this concept applies to everything. I think the input/feedback from people who spent alot of time with their character should be invaluable and encouraged.
I doubt the Graphical Overhaul will be optional or even scrapped- that's a compromise some of us will have to make but I think many will appreciate consistency in the shape of lips/noses/eyes etc. If not, then we should be pushing for more optional presets and in this point I doubt it'd be too much to ask.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Perhaps you think the flaws I like ugly and should be removed, and perhaps I think your standard beautiful look to be generic- none of us are wrong. I think we can coexist with more preset options to express ourselves. If you like a certain feature change, give constructive feedback and who knows, we might get the options that might make us all happy (hopefully) so that we may continue to enjoy this game we love.