Yeah I used toon before in something XIV related and someone jumped on me about being a WoW player. While I did play WoW, I started with EQ and I ran a guild, my characters were toons, and while I know it has a different meaning now, twinking was just passing high level gear to your alt.
As to the boat conversation, even back in EQ it was silent on the boat sometimes. After your 100000th 30+ minute trip seeing nothing but water - zone line - water - zone line - water, the novelty started to wear off. That's when the boat didn't bug and drop you into the sea between continents to drown and lose everything on your corpse. It was common to stick your stuff in the bank before taking a boat ride and getting it back when you were back on dry land assuming you could survive the naked run to someplace that had a bank. Nothing attacked you in EQ so XI did that differently but it's still very wearying to have to spend the entire night before you want to camp somewhere getting to where you're going to camp the next night.
EverQuest still exists and is still getting expansions. But it has a very niche playerbase. If people really wanted these things back, the games that still do them wouldn't be ghost towns. MMO playerbases have changed and the most successful current MMOs have learned to adapt to this changed mindset.