Quote Originally Posted by ty_taurus View Post
I never said you don't compliment at all, but more often than not, that "compliment" comes packaged with very tart corrective language. We had this conversation nearly a year ago when I was being very patient and trying to communicate with you. There are times where you say things that are fine, and other times where you take something someone says and turn in into something it isn't, and that's what's frustrating, not because you have a different opinion.
The thing is, this goes both ways, as I told you then.

You often interpret things I say as insulting or the most negative way possible, even when I'm very explicit they are not and am not doing so, and persist in that belief even if I explicitly lay it out again and tell you honestly I'm not doing what you've decided I'm doing. Moreover, this also is used by you guys against me on a REALLY consistent basis. By this point, I just ignore or gloss over a lot of it. In that discussion a year ago, you might recall while you were telling me it might be the way I post, that I pointed out others were doing the same thing and you didn't feel any need to address it (because they are on "your side" of things), and further, in exasperation asked if there was literally anything I could do short of just being silent or agreeing with you guys, and you guys couldn't come up with anything because any disagreements were unwelcome. (As I recall, when I asked that, the thread devolved into a bunch of side issues to avoid addressing it). And I asked why it was acceptable for you guys to do it to me, but not me to do it, which was also met with crickets.

Anyway, it was then that I gave up on trying that, since I realized there was no way to do it and I couldn't hope for consistency or for you guys to police yourselves the way you were trying to police me, so I just kinda went with that as the new normal/recognized reality.

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But as I said then, when I explicitly tell you I'm not making some snide or backhanded comment, you can and should actually believe me and you were reading "tart" language into it.

From me, it is a complement when I say you're well meaning and being benevolent.