Is there too much soy in this game's community

[Bobby66]

Here is a million dollar question, cause I do not understand this. What is up with people nowadays getting bent out of shape over things they have zero control over. Why not take personal accountable for ones own self and learn to control how they personally deal with outside factors instead of trying to get the outside factor to bend to them. Someone makes fun of you, calls you bad, tells you to self delete w/e who freaking cares they are random strangers in a video game world, they are no better then NPC's in the grand scheme of things. Sure it hurts, but why give them the satisfaction.

I say this as someone got bullied often, and even went as far as planning the unthinkable due to it. Life is far too short to let assholes get under your skin.

[Hurlstone]

Here is a million dollar question, cause I do not understand this. What is up with people nowadays getting bent out of shape over things they have zero control over. Why not take personal accountable for ones own self and learn to control how they personally deal with outside factors instead of trying to get the outside factor to bend to them. Someone makes fun of you, calls you bad, tells you to self delete w/e who freaking cares they are random strangers in a video game world, they are no better then NPC's in the grand scheme of things. Sure it hurts, but why give them the satisfaction.

I say this as someone got bullied often, and even went as far as planning the unthinkable due to it. Life is far too short to let assholes get under your skin.

One thing I will say is that emotional can cloud judgement. Its fine to say all that, and there is certainly allot of merit in learning to push on and not let strangers on the internet weigh you down, but bullying and the like can knock you down. It can cause you to irrationally believe whatever crap they are saying, or fly into rages of denial. Its that same for all sides. Plus for a number of different reasons, not everyone will be able to have such strong defences. As someone who has suffered alot with their mental health I feel I can say its not always easy to put such things into practise even if you have said tools. We cannot judge everyone by our own strengths or weaknesses.

Plus whilst I get its not what you mean, such approaches do have an air of ‘Blame the victim’ to it. There are those who will be defeated by simply ignoring them for sure (The old ‘Do not feed the trolls’ mofit has much value) letting such toxic behaviour fester without challenge can be worse.

[Bobby66]

One thing I will say is that emotional can cloud judgement. Its fine to say all that, and there is certainly allot of merit in learning to push on and not let strangers on the internet weigh you down, but bullying and the like can knock you down. It can cause you to irrationally believe whatever crap they are saying, or fly into rages of denial. Its that same for all sides. Plus for a number of different reasons, not everyone will be able to have such strong defences. As someone who has suffered alot with their mental health I feel I can say its not always easy to put such things into practise even if you have said tools. We cannot judge everyone by our own strengths or weaknesses.

Plus whilst I get its not what you mean, such approaches do have an air of ‘Blame the victim’ to it. There are those who will be defeated by simply ignoring them for sure (The old ‘Do not feed the trolls’ mofit has much value) letting such toxic behaviour fester without challenge can be worse.

The thing is we have no control over the actions of others, I get what you are saying but by no means will be will live in a world where we will be able to end bullying or force others to be kind to one another. I honestly do think we are causing more harm in the long run trying promote this idea that people have a moral obligation to be kind and understanding to all people around them. This will never happen in my opinion. It is not passing judgment, more so it is just fact, we as people can only control our own behavior end of story. This idea that people have to accept us for who we are is a fools errand. Should be kind and understanding? Yes, are people kind and understanding far from it. We are selfish creatures by nature our own personally enjoyment and wellbeing will always be in the forefront.

Do not give an outlet that can provide catharsis for the troll is the best thing you can do, denying the emotional response they seek is how you defeat a troll, bully, over the internet. Once you validate their existence and allow them to live rent free in your own mind you have already lost.