Sorry for taking a while to reply! I've been enjoying this discussion with you a lot, but Real Life Things happened, as they are wont to do.
Agreed with all of this re: the themes of isolation. It's a blind spot in tons of media, not just FFXIV, of course. I will say that prior to Endwalker, the game - well, primarily Shadowbringers - appealed to me in what felt like its approach being... hm, how to put this: even if they were working within this inherently questionable framing, the feeling of putting the "call for action" within it on the 'fortunate', as opposed to the vulnerable and isolated. With the acknowledgment and understanding that our heroic 'power of friendship' stance is something at least partially allowed to us due to circumstantial luck, that increases our responsibility to empathize with and reach out to those who are less - dare I say, in your vein, lol - privileged.
That's not to say there aren't times accords can't be reached and it still comes down to (regrettable) conflict - like with Emet-Selch - or that there aren't times when there isn't sufficient shared will between both parties to find a different, less violent path - see several Garleans, or Yotsuyu - but we still need to attempt it and err on the side of compassion, I think. And in those cases where things don't work out, the responsibility still falls on us to examine the situation for what it was and as honestly as possible, rather than generalizing one way or the other in terms of 'well, if they remain opposed to me, it's because of some fundamental evil' or 'they're all agency-less poor victims.' When it comes to callous explorations of 'isolation will ruin you,' what really drives me insane is the suggestion that therefore vulnerable, hurting people just be expected to pull themselves up by their emotional bootstraps and if they failed to acquire the power of friendship, it's due to lack of virtue or effort on their part (hence, implicitly, justification why those who are proven to 'put in the effort' have the right to judge, look down on, or abandon them.) FFXIV had enough instances of "hey, WoL, it's actually your job to reach a hand out to these people to help them" that I could mostly roll with it compared to a lot of other stories.
EW did a great job throwing all of the prior relative positivity I felt about how FFXIV handled things out the window, though, of course, lmao. (Well, with some exceptions. I did appreciate the nuance of the Garlemald zone.)
A lot of what Emet has done can be rightfully called out to be vile and heinous, and masses of people have every right to despise him for it. I think that doesn't change that our final confrontation in Amaurot, as the Warrior of Light and de facto representative of the Sundered, came down more to completely valid need versus completely valid need than good versus evil, and it's important to see that clearly (as the "great and terrible thing" it is) instead of huffing on I'm The Hero Putting Down The Evil Fascist Fighting For An Unworthy Cause. Shadowbringers is fairly explicit and textured about urging us to suppress that self-righteous temptation, which is a significant part of the reason I loved it.but I also liked how they didn't handle him with kid gloves, and the out-and-out disdain and distrust the Scions had for him all the while giving him that chance,
That being said, I ALSO completely and enthusiastically agree about it being super important that in-universe characters be allowed to hate and dislike Emet! I think that's a really crucial part of what made his portrayal in Shadowbringers work. I love the Ancients and the Ascians, and I was like "good, yes, excellent" when Tiamat and Estinien were basically bonding over "god, EFF those guys" even in a post-Amaurot reveal world based on the atrocities they had inflicted upon dragonkind--because they should. Tiamat loathing them all regardless of their sob story, Estinien not caring about their sob story, is the only thing that makes sense. My favorite aspect of G'raha Tia as a character is honestly how much he loathes Emet-Selch, and every time he expresses or alludes to that loathing, I basically feel only glee about it.
I think one of the fundamental issues in the writing of Endwalker is the disconnect between the purported 'main cast' (the Scions) and the actual core of the plot (the Ancients), but if they had gone out of their way to show the Scions all, in their weird blobby unified EW-way, falling over themselves to cry about Emet-Selch and sympathize with him, I think I would have hated it just about as much as you. Their Ultima Thule commentary was vague and generalized enough and felt more focused on general 'observations' about him and the Ancients to sort of dodge a breaking point in that regard, but I understand if it felt like too much for someone else.
I think we sort of process a 'difference in scale' in terms of Atrocities Committed in different ways that lead to the different evaluations here - though they're probably both valid?Really, the best way I guess I can put it is, while I can appreciate...
From the perspective of mostly analyzing the psychology/mindset of the person taking the action, the difference in scale - at least for me - isn't really that big a consideration, and mostly falls under "well, it's just circumstantial and mostly luck that Ardbert only looked to mass murder one world as opposed to seven. Only one was necessary for him. And once you make up your mind that ten, a hundred, a thousand, ten thousand, innocent people are expendable for the sake of your cause or your loved ones, that abusing one vulnerable population, five vulnerable populations, for the greater good is an acceptable cost, increasing the scale if needed is nothing more than feather-push away."
From the perspective of the victims as people, though, of course it makes every difference in the world, and that's a factor that shouldn't be ignored either. Of course when you step away from the mindset of 'what's going on in the brains and intentions of these people who get twisted from exceptionally good/heroic to I Am Ruthless Destroyer Of Worlds?' (and that isn't a fair thing to ask their victims to consider) and more an objective look at history, Ardbert and Crew torturing the Ixal, Gnath, Kobolds, and Amaljaa at minimum - that we know of - is an atrocity that claimed far fewer victims than Emet-Selch doing his thing across multiple nations and worlds over 12,000 years. And this will reflect on, perhaps, the amount of 'work' they're expected to do if they want any measure of forgiveness or understanding.
Oh, fully agreed. I love Emet-Selch, but I'm honestly mostly "shrug, sure, that's legit" in regards to if people like or dislike him as an individual. There are totally valid reasons to dislike him, or any other character. He's pretty despicable in a lot of ways and has an abrasive personality besides. (Not everyone goes for tsunderes?) However, I tend to draw a much harder line with the Ancients, who were good people (and most importantly, people) who did not deserve or earn by any measure what happened to them. They had every single bit as much a "right" to live as we did, and therefore you have the entire tragedy and thrust of Shadowbringers. And it's sort of sad to see how easy it is sometimes for people, still, to go "I don't like X individual or figure of authority within this race or culture, who is trying to advance their interests and well-being as a whole, therefore I must look for ways to denigrate the entire race or culture! Man, Othering for our own benefit is so convenient and definitely has no correlation whatsoever to certain trains of thought that haved moved history in disturbing ways throughout."I've seen enough rants about how people daring to enjoy Emet as a character conflates with a sympathetic view towards fascism myself, so I can understand that! I've also been surprised by the apparent dismissal fans have had towards the Ancients and will never not defend them, because while I can see how Emet can be a divisive figure for some
I'm loving Pandaemonium, too, though, and think it was pretty wonderful in regards to its approach to the Ancients - and am crossing fingers with you that they don't drop the ball on it as it continues.