It is not possible to play without doing dps as healer? every day i find someone...

[Mortex]

The GCBTW "we should be kind to each other uwu" prayer circle is amazing.

It's always the same:
someone says they don't want to dps. Others say that it's disrespectful to intentionally not do something that's literally ONE button. Somoene says "but they might be 80 years old or disabled or maybe just new, have you considered that???". Others say that mashing one button is still not difficult and they should still try. And then comes the best part: someone assumes they are being mean, rude and insulting to someone "not playing perfectly".

So we jumped straight from "someone refuses to dps because hEaLeRs sHoUlD hEaL and that's disrespectful to the rest of the party" to "you shouldn't insult, be mean and rude to people who may be 80 years old :c" and instantly got a sermon about how we should and nice to each other to make the world a better place<3.
Bonus points for the classic "I'd rather have a healer that doesn't dps than someone that LET'S ME DIE". How about neither? Why is one type of bad play used to excuse another type of bad play?

Let me make one thing very clear:
Nobody EVER condoned being rude, mean or insulting to someone not showing basic competency.
Nor was it EVER about "playing perfectly".
Is that so difficult to understand?

Dpsing on healer is not difficult. It's literally one button for basic damage. ONE.
The only way to not dps at least a bit on healer is either picking your nose the majority of the time or intentionally using your weakest, crappy GCD heals in order to seem busy and even then you'll have plenty of time. Contributing as much as you are able to is everyone's responsibility. You can clear any non-highend content with a healer only healing, a tank only grabbing aggro and then doing the /beesknees and the dps only auto attacking.
Doesn't mean that it's okay.

It’s called toxic casuals. FF 14 has a decent number of these people. We’re trying to give helps for other people to get better or asking a simple question like “can you pls dps a little as healer” get you answers like “you don’t pay my sub” ( classic one ) or that people say that you are a rude person that is a toxic elitist.

Like I’m pretty sure some ff 14 player get out of the bed in the night having nightmares about people giving them tips on how too get better at the game.

[Semirhage]

It’s called toxic casuals. FF 14 has a decent number of these people. We’re trying to give helps for other people to get better or asking a simple question like “can you pls dps a little as healer” get you answers like “you don’t pay my sub” ( classic one ) or that people say that you are a rude person that is a toxic elitist.

Like I’m pretty sure some ff 14 player get out of the bed in the night having nightmares about people giving them tips on how too get better at the game.

For all the reputation I seem to have as resident Healer Subforum Wicked Witch, the circumstances under which I would tell one of these people to bite me is surprisingly narrow.

• New? I'll let you know that there's a lot more you can get away with than you think. If you're not ready, that's fine.
• Nervous? I'll give advice if you ask for it. Practice helps a lot.
• Tired? Yeah, probably me too. Slowing down isn't the end of the world.
• Just running roulettes and aren't interested in the details of increasing your healer skill? Okay. I've played competitive games that I was uninterested in climbing that ladder too.
• Don't think you can hack the skill ceiling? Sure, it's one dungeon for me.
• Just don't want to? I mean, it's so easy to do it that that seems extra lazy, but I can't stop you.

All that? That's cool enough. Pretending as if spamming Medica 2 makes you a genius healer, much better at the game than dirty sweaty tryhard oGCD weaving healers? Scoffing at the idea that managing your resources to minimize losses makes you a better healer? Sneering at the idea that minimizing your healing is a skillful choice rather than negligence? Yeah, that's where I call BS.

And those positions I call BS on seem to be how CBU3 thinks healers "should" be played.